Erectile problems can happen to men of any age. There are many factors that contribute to Erectile Dysfunction (ED) including poor health, untreated medical problems, medications, and pornography use. Many men struggle to understand if they are experiencing situational sexual dysfunction or erectile issues that are an ongoing problem that requires medical help. Many of the tips and tricks below help without the use of medications.
First of all, it is normal that men will lose their erections about 25% of the time. Having realistic expectations for your sexual performance is important so that you don’t set yourself up for failure.
If you are able to get and maintain an erection 75% of the time or more, chances are that your erectile issues are situational, not biological.
That means that the situation you are in may be contributing to your ED versus a biological cause. Things like having too much to drink or being nervous can cause situational ED, whereas having high blood pressure can cause biological ED.
Another question to consider is: Are you waking up with erections in the morning? If the answer is yes, chances are your ED is situational. If the answer is no, your ED is most likely biologically based. Seeing a urologist or family practice doctor for help would be appropriate. Having biologically based ED makes you a good candidate for medications such as once a day Cialis or Viagra.
Something else to consider regarding ED is porn use. If you are masturbating to very stimulating porn on a regular basis, it might be difficult to get as aroused in the bedroom with your partner. Watching video pornography is very stimulating and often men have difficulty creating that same level of arousal or stimulation with their partners. Consider masturbating without technology, as images in your head are less stimulating than watching something live. Try this for two weeks and see if your erection quality improves.
Another factor that contributes to ED is not having enough stimulation before beginning or attempting sex. Many men have a sexual script that is kissing for a minute or two and then trying to proceed to intercourse.
As men age, they require more stimulation to get and maintain an erection firm enough for sex. Engaging in foreplay by yourself or with a partner is a great way to get your arousal levels up and get a firm erection. Many men begin to rush the process of sex once they experience ED. They worry that they will lose their erection, so they rush rather than go slow. But rushing only makes the problem worse.
You can also consider using a cock ring or penis ring if you are able to get an erection but have trouble maintaining it. Cock rings work by trapping the blood inside your penis so it remains harder for longer. You can purchase one in a sex store or online. Put in over your penis and testicles when you are half-hard and keep it on until you are finished with sex. It’s a great, cheap fix for erectile issues.
Another tip is to make sure you communicate with your partner about what you like during the process of sex. Many men are not communicative about what really turns them on. If you are not aroused, you might experience ED. Make sure you tell your partner what turns you on. Communicating about intimacy should also lead to feeling more connected with your partner and feeling more relaxed when you are sexual together.
Experiencing ED can also be a reason to not try penetrative sex. Try planning a sex session with your partner that isn’t focused on your erection at all. Things like kissing, licking, sucking, foreplay, and teasing all are super stimulating and don’t focus on penetration. Feel free to bring each other to orgasm using these techniques and see if you are able to relax and enjoy the experience. Many men feel like a failure when their erection becomes unreliable. Having a few successful sexual sessions that lead to orgasm without penetration can put the fun back into having sex. Many couples find success using this technique and begin to reengage sexually instead of avoiding being sexual for fear of failure.